How to create lasting change in your life
Good Inside, Cary Grant, trusting you are loved
Happy Friday!
Have you ever found yourself wanting to make a change, but struggling to do so?
Do you ever find yourself stuck in a rut, wondering if you’ll ever find your way out?
In Dr. Becky’s book, Good Inside, she suggests that believing and trusting in your inherent goodness is the first step toward making a change. You must believe that you are good and worthy and valuable. Any other way of viewing yourself will detour you from the change you desire to see.
“Our body cannot tolerate feeling bad inside - feeling bad is synonymous with feeling “unconnectable” to others, and our evolutionary success depends on our ability to attach. As soon as we feel bad, unlovable, or unworthy, all of our energy is diverted toward escaping this feeling. There is no energy available to change and try new things!” (Dr. Becky Kennedy - Good Inside)
Sure, we all make mistakes. We all blow it from time to time. But those moments don’t define who you are. They don’t discredit the truth that at your core, you are good and lovable.
Do you trust this truth?
There’s an observation Dyan Cannon makes about Princess Diana as she compares her story to what she witnessed in her husband, Cary Grant:
“I once heard Princess Diana say that she never felt loved. But when she passed, the entire world mourned. But it doesn’t matter how many people profess love for you if you haven’t found it at its source.”*
What a sad observation.
When we can’t see our inner worth and value, all our energy goes toward chasing the love and value and acceptance we so desperately desire. Being loved for who we are appears too good to be true. So we work hard to prove we’re lovable, derailing our attempts at personal growth and change because we’re stuck in a particular way of seeing ourselves, unable to imagine anything different.
The first step in making a change is to trust that you are good inside. You’re loved as you are. The more you can trust this truth, the greater your ability to grow and change.
I explore this idea in my latest sermon, “The Fullness That Is Yours.” You can listen here.
*Quote found in Scott Eyman’s book, Cary Grant: A Brilliant Disguise
My new book, Learning to Float, comes out next week. Here’s the back write-up:
I hope you’re as excited as I am.
Enjoy the weekend!
Dave